Let’s tell each other one thing that we love about the other person before we go to sleep. Okay, Mama. I’ll go first. I love the way your whole face lights up when you smile. Oh, Mama. That’s sweet…And I love when you give me strawberries. *** […]
Body Back: How to Make Friends with Our Reflections
December 23, 2013 by
Newsflash, y’all! Kim Kardashian has her body back. No surgery, haters. So stop your finger-pointing and snide headlines, already. US Weekly calls Kim’s “exclusive” picture proof the ultimate revenge for all the post-baby body bashing stories. And as far as the media (and a large segment of our body conscious society is concerned), that’s all […]
Driven: The Prize
December 18, 2013 by
by Rachel Kargas I have always been self motivated. In school nobody had to remind me to do my homework. In college I could be found at 10PM on a Friday night in the quiet corner of the Memorial Library nursing a cup of black coffee while my friends were out doing shots and drinking Sex On […]
Wishing Her True (Again)
October 23, 2013 by
I don’t remember not knowing that my mother weighed 85 pounds when she got pregnant with me. Or that she was a senior in high school. Or that she got married right after graduation and had me instead of letting her parents talk her into an abortion. I don’t remember not thinking I was […]
Words DO Matter
May 22, 2013 by
Yup, you read that right. Words do matter. It starts with one moment and gets paid forward – snowballing until tomorrow’s emotional health is wrapped up in words from so many yesterdays before. My current work as a bilingual child & family therapist and mental health advocate began with kind words. My 7th grade […]
When moms need help
February 15, 2013 by
“I think my mom feels insecure about herself because every time we go to take family pictures she always says that she’s too fat.” Kaitlin, 11. “My mom is always comparing herself to other people and my grandmother is always like, “Oh my God, look at my belly fat, it’s disgusting!” Jasmine, 10. We […]
Owning My Reflection
January 8, 2013 by
See this? See my reflection full of curves and soft places that serve to comfort my child and turn on my husband even when I can’t see past the cellulite and society’s ideals? Good. Know that I feel good when I focus on nothing but that: how I feel. Fuck the scale. Screw the […]
I Am
December 27, 2012 by
I am not confused, but I am stuck I am not towering above I am writing below I am thought and light Darkness and shame I am not an ending; instead I am the start of something bigger Better Scarier I am demand, and I am devotion To everything And nothing I am bravery, and I am fear Wrapped around love Wrapped around falsehood and truth Yet, I am failure I am not yet strong But, I am still not weak I am longing […]
Wishing Her True
December 3, 2012 by
I don’t remember not knowing that my mother weighed 85 pounds when she got pregnant with me. Or that she was a senior in high school. Or that she got married right after graduation and had me instead of letting her parents talk her into an abortion. I don’t remember not thinking I was an […]
The Problem of Loving My Body and Body As Object
August 13, 2012 by
Love it or hate it, Elan Morgan ponders self-acceptance, our bodies, and why there isn’t really an answer. I think about beauty and self-acceptance and love, and I think about how our culture, in an effort to beat back the ocean of self-loathing that women have been drowning in for so long, offers up […]
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