Heart Pops

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  Let’s tell each other one thing that we love about the other person before we go to sleep.   Okay, Mama.   I’ll go first. I love the way your whole face lights up when you smile.   Oh, Mama. That’s sweet…And I love when you give me strawberries.   ***       […]

Wishing Her True (Again)

Wishing Her True Girl Body Pride

I don’t remember not knowing that my mother weighed 85 pounds when she got pregnant with me. Or that she was a senior in high school. Or that she got married right after graduation and had me instead of letting her parents talk her into an abortion.   I don’t remember not thinking I was […]

A Declaration to Myself

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  My name is Pauline M. Campos. I have a right to happiness, to ask for what I need in life, to choose with whom I sit and how I want to spend my time and energy. It is my responsibility to pursue this happiness and wholeness. Your opinion, your value judgements on me, my […]

Filled with Gold

When the Japanese mend broken objects, they aggrandize the damage by filling the cracks with gold. They believe that when something has suffered damage and has a history it becomes more beautiful.

I’m damaged. Broken. Messed up. Fat. I’m weathered. Not good enough. Never will be. So many cracks. So much to fix. So much to wish away. I’m imperfect. A bad example for the daughter I hope grows up to be nothing like me. I don’t want her to have to pretend confidence, self-love, and pride […]

Pretty as a Princess

The Princess Who Isn't Really a Princess

A random stranger wished my daughter luck today. What she was really saying as she made eye contact with my five-year-old instead of meeting my eyes was that she was sorry my daughter had the misfortune to be born to me instead of someone else. Maybe a nice lady with a sense of humor who […]

Lessons, Reflections, and Self-Acceptance

Young Woman, Arms Outstretched

I’ve learned a very important lesson in the process of becoming a mother. In order to age gracefully and become truly, timelessly beautiful, we must surrender our attachment to the youthful bodies we once had and revel in the fact that, as much as it sounds like a cliché, it’s really true that our essential […]